Slow parenting in the age of AI
The fastest way to raise an independent, capable kid is to stop being in a hurry.
“He can count all the way to a hundred now.”
The mother said it the way you announce good news.
She was glowing. And it is good news, I told her. The numbers feel like proof that the child is learning.
The conversation drifted, the way these do, towards the bigger question.
What are we actually watching for at this age.
What does doing well even look like in a small child.
I told her the thing we keep coming back to. Independence.
She looked surprised when I said Tara and Tashi get themselves ready, start to finish, on their own.
There is a fixed order to it.
They fetch their towels.
They pick their clothes and lay them on the bed.
They bathe themselves.
They come out, do their own oil and lotion, and get dressed.
The only thing they still need us for is their hair.
And even that, only if we want it neat.
With the short haircut Pankhuri gave them, they can push in a hairband and call it done.
People hear this and assume it is a personality thing.
Some kids are just independent. We don’t think that is it.
Independence is not something you teach. It is something you stop interrupting.
You stop doing things fast for them. You stop finishing the task because you are in a hurry.
You let them take their time and figure it out, even when your own hands are itching to just do it for them.
Our kids are growing up in a world where a machine will answer any question before they finish asking it and do the hard part of almost any task if they let it.
Speed is about to become free. Which means the rare thing, the expensive thing, will be a child who can sit inside something slow and difficult and work it out on her own.
Last Saturday, on our weekly trips to Sanjay Gandhi National Park, the girls took their cycles.
There is a short patch from the entry down to our usual break spot.
Fifty metres, maybe. We could have covered it in ten minutes. It took us an hour.
Because they wanted to ride it themselves.
At one point a cycle got stuck on the side of the road, and they spent a good ten minutes working out how to get it back onto the road.
We stood there and let them.
An hour to cross fifty metres looks like wasted time. It is not.
That hour is the lesson. They build so many neurons during that experience.
The next time a wheel gets stuck, they already know what to do, because they did it once with nobody rescuing them.
That is where independence actually comes from. Trust. You let them find their own way through the small hard thing in front of them.
They will cry about it sometimes. You stay close, you cheer them on, and you let them try anyway.
Counting to a hundred is lovely. But I will take a child who can think and work independently over a small academic milestone, any day.
Two parents, twin daughters, no manual.
P.S. The fastest way to raise an independent, capable kid is to stop being in a hurry. :)
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