"Why Don't You Send Your Kids to School?"
The question we hear most. And the one we love answering.
It comes up at every family gathering. Every dinner with friends. Every casual conversation at the park.
“So... why don’t you send Tara and Tashi to school?”
And honestly? My first instinct isn’t to defend our choice. It’s to ask them a question right back.
Why do you send YOUR children to school?
Pause on that for a second. Really think about it.
Because when I’ve asked this question to dozens of parents, the answers are always the same. And they always surprise me. Not because they’re wrong. But because every single thing they’re looking for? Our kids already have it. Without school.
Let me walk you through it.
“School teaches discipline.”
This is the number one answer. And I get it. There’s comfort in structure. In someone else creating a framework for your child’s day.
But here’s what I see every single morning in our home.
Tara and Tashi wake up. They follow their own routine. Not because we’ve drilled it into them or because a bell rings at 6:30 AM. But because they’ve built it themselves over time. Brushing teeth, getting dressed, sitting down for breakfast. It happens naturally. No shouting. No rushing. No “come on, we’re going to be late!”
The mornings in our house are joyous. I don’t use that word lightly. There is actual joy. Because nobody is in a frenzy. Nobody is being forced into anything. The girls move through their day with a rhythm that belongs to them.
That’s not the absence of discipline. That’s the deepest form of it. Self-discipline. The kind that doesn’t need a teacher watching over you to work.
“School gives them structure.”
Structure is important. I’ll never argue against that.
But who says structure has to come from a school? Who decided that the only way to give a child a framework for their day is to put them in a building with 30 other kids and one adult for 6 hours?
We have structure. Plenty of it. But it’s designed around our family, our values, and our children’s natural rhythms. Not around a curriculum that was written for the average child. (And by the way, no child is “average.”)
Our girls know what their day looks like. They have rhythms for play, for reading, for meals, for outdoor time. They know when it’s time to clean up after themselves. They know when it’s winding down time.
The difference? They don’t resist it. Because they’re not being forced into someone else’s structure. They’re living inside their own.
TT make their own rotis for lunch every day since 2.5 years of age
“School is where they learn.”
This one always makes me smile.
Because if you spend even one morning with Tara and Tashi, you’ll see that learning isn’t something that starts at 8 AM and stops at 2 PM. It’s happening all the time. Every single minute.
Why read about Tyndall effect when you can eat with it in the background
When they’re cutting vegetables in the kitchen, that’s motor skills and focus. When they’re playing with blocks, that’s spatial reasoning. When they ask “but WHY?” for the 47th time in a day, that’s scientific thinking.
Children are born curious. You don’t need to create curiosity. You NEED to not kill it.
And here’s what I’ve noticed about the school system. Not all schools, but many. The structure that’s meant to foster learning often ends up doing the opposite. Kids learn to sit still. Kids learn to wait for permission. Kids learn to ask “will this be on the test?” instead of “but what happens next?”
Our girls don’t mind getting bored. And that’s maybe the most underrated thing I can tell you.
Because boredom is where creativity lives. Boredom is where a stick becomes a sword becomes a fishing rod becomes a magic wand. When you fill every minute of a child’s day with structured activity, you rob them of the chance to create something from nothing.
“They need to learn social skills.”
TT make friends outside their age group and also make breakfast for them
Sure. But social skills aren’t exclusive to a classroom.
Tara and Tashi interact with people of all ages. Not just kids who happen to be born in the same year. They talk to shopkeepers, auto drivers, other families at parks, our friends, their grandparents. They reason. They negotiate. They express what they want using words, not tantrums.
At 3 years old, they use reason to converse. That’s not a school-taught skill. That’s a trust-taught skill.
When you treat children like they’re capable of understanding, they rise to meet you.
“But what about when they’re older?”
This is the fear question. And I respect it deeply.
Every parent worries about the future. Will they be able to handle the “real world”? Will they be behind? Will they miss out?
Here’s how I think about it. The real world doesn’t test you on memorized facts. The real-world tests you on your ability to think, to adapt, to communicate, to stay calm under pressure, to be curious enough to figure things out.
We took our twins to Europe at 10 months. Three countries. Three weeks. Twenty-two cities. We took them to Iceland at 22 months. Twenty-seven hours of travel, missed connections, lost luggage, sub-zero temperatures, snow storms.
They handled it. Not because they read about resilience in a textbook. But because they’ve been living it.
The “real world” is already their classroom.
What I’m really saying
I want to be clear about something. This is not an anti-school post. I have nothing against schools. Some are doing incredible work. Some teachers are absolute heroes.
What I am saying is this: don’t send your children to school on autopilot. Don’t do it because “that’s what everyone does.” Don’t do it because you haven’t considered that there might be another way.
If you’ve thought about it deeply and school is the right choice for your family, wonderful. Go for it wholeheartedly.
But if you’re doing it because you believe school is the only place where children can learn discipline, structure, social skills, and knowledge? I’d gently push back on that.
Because we’re living proof that those things can happen at home. In fact, they can happen better at home.
Because at home, the learning never stops. There’s no bell that rings. No curriculum that dictates what’s interesting today. No one-size-fits-all approach.
At home, curiosity leads. Trust drives. And joy is the constant companion.
The PI Square Way
At Life of PI Square, we believe that the best environment for a child isn’t one where learning is scheduled. It’s one where learning is natural. Where curiosity is celebrated, not managed. Where children are trusted to explore, to question, to fail, and to try again.
We built this for our daughters. And now we’re sharing it with families who feel like something is off about the default path but don’t quite know what the alternative looks like.
If that’s you, we’d love to talk. Book a free 15-minute discovery call. No pressure. No pitch. Just a conversation between parents.
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We’re Pankhuri and Ishan, parents to twin toddlers. At Life of PI Square, we believe parenting is easy when you trust your children and start at the right time.
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